Is your family looking for a twist on the traditional
Bar or Bat Mitzvah?
Is your family seeking out an alternative to
the run of the mill bar or bat mitzvah?
Would you consider a destination Bar or Bat Mitzvah?
offer bar and bat Mitzvah ceremonies in Boulder, Denver and Summit
County Colorado as well as any place you can dream up.
Why are destination bar and bat mitzvah so popular?
Destination Bar or Bat Mitzvah:
Why do bar and bas mitzvah cost so much anyway? There are DJs,
bands, themes, centerpieces, gifts, photographers, videographers,
Kiddush luncheons, gift bags and on and on. You feel obliged to
invite all the aunts, uncles, cousins, neighbors, colleagues and
clients not to mention your bar or bat mitzvah student's entire
class. Ouch it hurts the wallet just thinking about it!
Although a destination bar or bat mitzvah has its own unique costs
(airfare, hotel and meals) because you tend to have fewer guests
and a simpler celebration, the average price is much lower than
the cost of doing a ceremony at home. And the memories you create
during this unique, alternative
bar or bat mitzvah will be priceless.
Bar or Bat Mitzvah: Time with your family
Destination bar or bat mitzvahs create family time. When you come
to Boulder, Colorado (or other location of your choice) for your
destination bar or bat mitzvah, you will have some relaxed, quality
time with your family. Most families take time before or after the
ceremony to vacation. Whether you relax or adventure, a destination
bar or bat mitzvah gives you precious time with your family and
Bar and Bat Mitzvah: Changing the Emphasis from the Party to the
A destination bar or bat mitzvah let's you focus on your son or
daughter's journey of learning and discovery, rather than on caterers
A Destination Bar Bat Mitzvah will enable you to escape the one-ups-man
ship of Bar and Bat Mitzvah parities. A destination bar or bat mitzvah
will return the emphasis of the Bar or Bat Mitzvah to what it should
be, because it takes the focus off the fancy party and puts it on
the ceremony. A destination bar or bat mitzvah allows you to focus
on a smaller, close circle of community - your closest family and
Destination Bar or Bat Mitzvah: Personalized
Destination bar or bas mitzvah gives you the opportunity to put
your family’s unique stamp on the bar or bat mitzvah ceremony.
Unlike many synagogues that have bar and bat mitzvah ceremonies
every weekend and therefore need to keep all the ceremonies the
same, your bar or bat mitzvah will be unique. When you work with
our rabbis to create your destination bar or bat mitzvah, we will
help you craft a ceremony that reflects your family. Maybe you want
your destination bar or bat mitzvah to include a hike, a horseback
ride or a day of skiing. Or perhaps you want your destination bar
mitzvah to be more traditional, inside a hall with the guests in
suits. (Yes, we occasionally do those as well!)
We will help you create a ceremony that matches your family's style.
You will have a say in elements ranging from where the ceremony
is to who participates in the service. (We can create many opportunities
for your guests to participate.)
Bar or Bat Mitzvah: Outdoor Possibilities
Many people experience their most spiritual moments outdoors, so
it seems odd to restrict bar and bat mitzvah ceremonies to indoor
synagogues. We are amendable to officiating at bar and bat mitzvah
ceremonies in a variety of outdoor locations.
But, we also understand that families often include an important
guest who can't do a hike. Another option at destination bar and
bat mitzvah is to have the bar and bat mitzvah service indoors but
to add a Friday night service with a hike for those guests who are
physically ale to partake. We have also done an optional afternoon
havdallah hike for guests after the bat or bar mitzvah. We have
lots of creative ideas; just ask
Destination Bat or Bar Mitzvah: How it works
View Video on an Adventure Rabbi Destination Bar Mitzvah
First: You pick a place for your destination Bar
or Bat mitzvah. The majority of our destination bar or bat mitzvahs
are right here in Boulder, Colorado. With some of the finest hiking
in the world, why anywhere else the destination? Copper Mountain
in Summit County is a favorite for our Ski bar or bat mitzvahs.
But our rabbis do travel, so you pick a destination and we will
meet you there.
Second: You pick a date for your destination Bar
or Bat mitzvah. We only book dates 18 months in advance, so no need
to plan 3 or 4 years out. (We don’t want to think that far
ahead!) But since Bar and Bat mitzvah can be on Monday, Thursday
or Saturday we can almost always find a date for you, even late
in the game if you can be flexible.
Monthly work with the Rabbi: The bar or bat mitzvah student will work with the
rabbi in preparation for the destination bar or bat mitzvah
service. Once a month for ten moths before your ceremony,
the bar or bat mitzvah student and the rabbi will meet by
phone or Skype. They will discuss the meaning of Bar or
Topics are individualized for each student but generally
include questions like:
What's this Bar / Bat mitzvah thing about anyway?
The purpose of Tikkun Olam / Who am I to try to save the world?
Taking on responsibility
What is prayer and how does it work?
Can God help me with my math test? (And who/what/where is God
Is Shabbat relevant and meaningful to a 12 or 13 year old?
What does this Torah potion mean and what does it have to do
Your rabbi will also supervise the work the bar or bat mitzvah
student does with their Hebrew tutor. (You contract for
the Hebrew tutor in your community separately.) The Rabbi will help the bar or
bat mitzvah student:
Write their D'var torah (speech about the Torah portion)
Find meaning in their social action project
Write a speech about their social action project
Find meaning in their Shabbat project.
Fourth: Community and Rabbi
We really encourage your family to come to Adventure Rabbi events.
This is a great way to get to know Rabbi Korngold (The Adventure
Rabbi) and for her to get to know you and also a fabulous opportunity
to connect with what may well be the coolest Jewish community in
the United States. Check out our retreats attended by people around
the country and our local events.
Fifth: Ceremony Prep:
You can choose to have Rabbi Jamie Korngold or one of our
other Rabbis officiate at the service. A month before the
service, you will meet by phone Skype or in person with the
officiating rabbi to plan your service, polish your talks,
rehearse the service and set the tone for the bar or bat mitzvah.
We use Gate of Prayer (Gender neutral edition) the Reform Movement’s
gray colored prayer book. We also welcome your family to create
their own prayer book, although admittedly this is a lot of work
so few families do.
We welcome your family and friends participation in the service
to make it meaningful and unique.
We use a third-size, backpacking Torah, which has been read in
all sorts of wondrous location, on the top of peaks and the bottom
of canyons. We look forward to adding you to the long line of bar
and bat mitzvah students who have read from our Torah is all sorts
of amazing places.